Thursday, May 17, 2012

Hop Against Homophobia



Today is the International Day Against Homophobia. Its a day to raise awareness, and celebrate diversity. In short, it's time to erase homophobia. And let's stop  trans*phobia and *queerphobia while we're at it. 

In fact, fuck *phobias in general. 

I'm going to co-opt this space to preach a little. I want to stop saying "It's okay to be gay." Why? Because no one should ever need a qualifier to be okay. Whatever you are, wherever you fit best in the alphabet soup, or out of it, it's okay. It's okay to simply be who you are. 





Gay, straight, trans, bi, tall, short, fat, thin, geeky, smart, stupid. It just doesn't matter. It's okay to be.

No matter who you are, what you are, or who you want to be, go for it. Be who you were born to be. That's all you can do, and the rest will fall into place.

It's okay to be.


What do you think?

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~xxx~







34 comments:

  1. Love your books. Love your message. Love your no-sense approach. You're awesome. XoXo

    Night Tempest

    NightTempestBlog@gmail.com

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  2. Love should always triumph over hate and I believe it always will.

    kimberlyFDR@yahoo.com

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  3. Yeah! You're so right Xara. It's just okay to be and fuck phobias. Thank you for this post, as always your cut right to the chase and make your point beautifully. I'm so glad that you posted.

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  4. Good Morning, I just wanted to say how much I admire you for banding together with so many authors for such a worthy cause. Good luck in your endeavors.

    Missy Martine
    missymartine@comcast.net
    www.missymartine.com

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  5. Couldn't have said it better! I admire people who get their message across with so few words.

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  6. You have a nice, clear message that works for me!

    andreagrendahl AT gmail DOT com

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  7. Loved your words loved the approach no non-sense.


    I'm just hopping around enjoying reading the posts ~Blows kisses and runs off to read more~

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  8. Quoted for truth!

    rykaine@yahoo.com

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  9. It's okay to be.... LOVE IT! I hope I get a chance to use it now. =D

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  10. Everyday we meet people and form opinions of them without knowing what they do behind closed doors. People are people and I hope to live to see they day where they are accepted for the person they are and not how they look, act, or who they choose to love!

    bcothernbooksATgmail.com

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  11. It's okay to love and be loved . It's okay to be. Great message .

    dekad1 (at)hotmail(dot)com

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  12. What a great message! It's so true.
    Tj
    richards851(at)sbcglobal(dot)net

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  13. Spot on, Xara. Just be yourself and be happy! :-)
    Thanks for the great post
    Barb

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  14. My favorite post yet on the hop. I agree!

    vitajex(at)aol(dot)com

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  15. thank you for sharing this with us today. I think this is an important cause that needs the spotlight shining on it.

    musings-of-a-bookworm@hotmail.co.uk

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  16. Yes, it's OK to just be yourself :)

    penumbrareads(at)gmail(dot)com

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  17. Thanks for participating in the hop. This is a great cause that I pray one day will not be needed.

    forettarose@yahoo.com

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  18. agreed! You be you!

    morris.crissy@gmail.com

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  19. Totally agree. And I like how you cut out gay and said it's okay to be. We all should be able to just be. I damn sure wish the rest of the world would catch on to such a simple thing... just be.

    ~M

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  20. Arrrgh. Forgot my stupid email addy again! *head/desk*

    nomoretears00@hotmail.com

    ~M

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  21. I agree with your motto - I choose to BE.

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  22. That's true why do we always need a modifier, it is ok just to be.

    burchills AT gmail DOT com

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  23. "It's okay to be."

    I love it ^.^ Great point.

    Erica
    eripike at gmail dot com

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  24. Awesome post, Xara! It is okay to be, no matter what your being. (Unless we're talking serial killer or something... ;) ) Thanks for participating in the hop.

    ashley.vanburen[at]gmail[dot]com

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  25. How true. You have be the best 'you' you can be- no on else can do that for you. Society should stop being afraid of the different and embrace it. If everyone was the same, what a boring world this would be. Tami (tb-kindle@hotmail.com)

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  26. Yep I've gotta agree with you. Just being you, should be enough. Great post!

    kelsey@netspace.net.au

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  27. Interesting post. Thanks for participating in the HOP.

    gisu29(at)gmail(dot)com

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  28. thanks for the great post I believe it should matter who you are or who you love.

    normanielsen@bigpond.com

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  29. Wonderfully put! One of things I always told my kids is that there is no such thing as normal..... Everyone is different! and if we weren't this world would be a damn boring place!! I wouldn't want to live in a world where we were all the same, would you?!

    Hugs,
    Pati
    JPM6966@aol.com

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  30. I completely agree. When people talk about how minority groups deserve tolerance instead of complete acceptance, I'm always reminded of a line in The Hua Hu Ching, "To the ordinary being, others often require tolerance. To the highly evolved being, there is no such thing as tolerance, because there is no such thing as other."

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  31. I love all the statements everyone has made in this hop, I have loved it.

    peggy1984@live.com

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  32. Love is love no matter what and everyone has a right to love who they love. Thanks for sharing and participating!!

    tiger-chick-1(at)hotmail(dot)com

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  33. It is okay to be and love who you want to love. Thanks for sharing
    red_tigergirl2(at)hotmail(dot)com

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